I want to share a story with you. I’m scared to share it a little bit though. Mostly because the story is true, and ever more so because the story is mine. Also because I’ve never met you, you know? Anyways, this story is how I went from single and content, to dating and ecstatic, and finally, right back to single and all together changed.
So let me share. Before I do, let me share something else. I want to converse about this with YOU. This is my story, but this is our conversation. There’s the comment section, and there is facebook and twitter. I’d love to chat with anyone about anything. My goal in life is to honor Jesus, and part of that goal is fulfilled by being absolutely transparent and authentic.
One more thing before I share (are you getting sick of my lack of sharing my story – maybe I’m really am a bit timid to do so) . . . this story is still fresh. My story is always growing and changing. Daily, Jesus alters my perspectives and teaches me new things. That being said, this is just the beginning of my story. I have much more to share. Today I share just a peek into my heart and some of its aches. This is the beginning of a blog series.
I believe that culture has done us wrong. Movies and shows, music and lyrics, they’ve taught us that when our heart breaks, we are broken. However, breakups include the word “up”. When I look back on my life, at every “breakup”, whether it was a relationship failed, job ended, friendship failed, etc., I see more so Jesus saving me from something. I always look back and see a divine intervention of a Saviour leading me from one thing to the next. I’m not saying that Jesus wants me to live in prosperity and to have no problems. In fact, that’s the last thing I’m saying. This life I live is made to glorify Jesus, no matter the cost. I do though, believe that Jesus is real. I believe He is huge and big and life altering. I believe that He has my best in mind, and my best is always His glory. This is the same for you.
So I want to write a series about how we deal with breakups. This series will probably be most specifically about our relationship breakups, but it will probably ring true as well if you feel as though life has left you broken in other ways.
Okay, finally – so now let’s begin my story.
Last summer, I met a great guy. For the sake of respecting him, I’m not going to share his name, because he is a good guy. Soon after meeting each other, we started dating. It was perfect. I can not begin to explain how perfect it was. Every single one of my friends told me that he was perfect for me, and his friends did the same to him about me. Our parents were all supportive, and I prayed every single day that God would lead us. We were careful to watch our physical boundaries, and one of the most beautiful sentences he spoke about purity was, “I don’t want to take anything that is meant to be your husbands’”. Beautiful, right? Exactly. Let me interrupt my story to say that if your boyfriend doesn’t believe those words, he isn’t right for you. You deserve to be cherished and loved. More on that another day okay? . . .
We dated. It was fun. We went on a lot of walks, and enjoyed getting to know each other. We shared our hopes and dreams and realized that many of them were similar.
Then it ended. I could go on for hours about how it ended, and why it ended, but to be honest, over 7 months later, it’s still not the right time to blog about that. It did end though. The guy decided that we were done, and so we were done.
When he broke up with me, it occurred on a walk. He had met me at my house, and in a moment of smartness on my part, I walked us in the direction of my sister’s home. I had a feeling that the conversation we were about to partake in was going to end with us no longer being a couple. I was correct.
That’s as much of my story as I’ll share today. There’s so much more that I could share, but that’s it for now.
Over my next few blog posts, I’m going to share how I dealt with the pain of that break-up. My story is not perfect. I’m a sinner in need of a Saviour every single day. Jesus is faithful, and when I am repentant, He forgives me. There are probably numerous ways where I sinned in the relationship and the break-up and in the months following, but there are also numerous ways where I chose righteousness. I am going to share about those areas where God revealed the right way to be broken.
Jesus calls us to love him and then to love others. His greatest commission on our life is to make disciples in His name. The goal in all of our relationships in life, and most specifically our dating ones (and marriage ones) is to bring one another closer to Jesus. Is that the goal, or at least a goal, in your relationships?
In my breakup with the boy, I made some distinct decisions. I look forward to sharing them with you in the next few weeks. I welcome dialogue and I would love to hear your stories. If you need a mentor, I’d love to be that in your life. If you’re struggling, let me walk along beside you. In fact, let all of us do that for you. As a blogging team, we want to help you meet Jesus every single day, in grander and greater ways each time. Our God loves you so much that He gave His son for YOU. Grasp onto Jesus, and whatever you are going through will suddenly seem to have purpose. Christ is YOUR Saviour, if only you call on HIS name.
Talk to you soon,
I really look forward to it.