Written by Guest Blogger: Mark French
Perhaps you’ve got a voice in the back of your head that says you are unlovable. Lets start at the most important point: you are not unlovable. Go ahead and underline the word “not”, this is very important for you to understand before you read the rest of this. You have unmistakable, undeniable qualities that make you completely and fully lovable.
Before we talk about what those are, we need to address something. Often times the feeling that no one will ever love you, or that no one ever could love you comes from a desire to be loved for all the wrong reasons. Your ability to love does not make you lovable. Your ability to become whatever someone else needs, the ability to adapt to the person who you want to love you, does not make you lovable. What you wear, what you put on your face, how you do your hair, none of that makes you lovable.
What makes you lovable is who you are. Your identity, who you believe yourself to be and what you think you are capable of, all this determines how you live and act. Identity determines everything about you, it determines how you treat your body, it determines what you say, and it determines how you treat other people. Identity is key in understanding what you believe is possible for you.
Now, I could go into a lot of flattery, telling you that you are attractive and capable and an all around beautiful person, which is true, but it doesn’t help you address the real issue that is keeping all of those things hidden. The issue is that there is something in the way, preventing all of this from coming out; there is something in the way that keeps you from having all that has been promised to you. That one thing is sin.
The sin I am talking about is the sin you were born with, this is the sin that came into the world when Adam and Eve sinned. You may wonder why some people have confidence while still having this sin in their life. I won’t go too far into that, but it is confidence in them, it is limited. That is not what God wants for you, however. That limited confidence in self is too small for you. There is something much better.
When you give yourself fully to the understanding of how much God loves you; how high, how wide, how long and how deep His love for you is. How you can do all things through Christ who strengthens those whose hearts are fully surrendered to Him, how the Holy Spirit will gladly and freely provide you everything you need for, not just holiness, but life itself. When you understand the nature of what you were created to be and do, you will have a confidence and contentment that no earthly situation can ever take away from you.
The peace of God will guard your heart and mind as you live in Christ. You will no longer be subject to the crashing waves of the world, but you will be transformed by the renewing of your mind so that you will know what God thinks and wants for you. Then you will walk in confidence knowing your full identity, not as a mere human, but as a dearly beloved child of the almighty God.