We long to be wanted, we long to be desired, we long for attention. We have this empty hole in our heart that’s screaming to be filled, and we’ll do anything to fill it. We’ll search and search–give ourselves away in one way or another–all to satisfy that emptiness.
One of the major things I see girls my age do to fill this hole is enter into a relationship with a guy. Why? Because they need someone else to confirm who they are. They need someone to say, “You’re beautiful. You’re wanted. You’re captivating. You’re loved. You’re not alone.” Often times, girls fall for fake promises from a guy who says they will always be there, never lose feelings for you, and always love you. Then after the break up, girls are left searching again to find something else to fill their emptiness and wondering what will. They long for their identity to be found in being loved.
It hurts me deeply to see girls I know go through this process. Even though they may believe in God, they haven’t fully opened their hearts to let Him pour His love and identity into them. They don’t think of Him as the one that has been pursuing them, the one who has been incredibly in love with them, the one who has had feelings towards them since day one. He’s been watching, admiring, and getting butterflies at the thought of them loving Him back.
A relationship with Christ can never be replaced by a relationship with a guy. We can’t rely all of our worth, value, identity, or happiness on a guy who’s feelings may change for us. No boy can live up to the expectation of filling a hole that is meant for only God to fill. That emptiness and cry for love should only be filled with Christ. His feelings for us never change. He has, is, and always will be completely in love with us. Despite what you’ve done, despite what you do, His feelings of adoration and His choice of love never changes.
be.loved Intern: Katherine Robins
Twitter: @ katAnnerobins