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Admin- Kymberly Janelle February 28, 2013 Relationships, Singleness 5 Comments on the search for love.


  We long to be wanted, we long to be desired, we long for attention. We have this empty hole in our heart that’s screaming to be filled, and we’ll do anything to fill it. We’ll search and search–give ourselves away in one way or another–all to satisfy that emptiness.

One of the major things I see girls my age do to fill this hole is enter into a relationship with a guy. Why? Because they need someone else to confirm who they are. They need someone to say, “You’re beautiful. You’re wanted. You’re captivating. You’re loved. You’re not alone.” Often times, girls fall for fake promises from a guy who says they will always be there, never lose feelings for you, and always love you. Then after the break up, girls are left searching again to find something else to fill their emptiness and wondering what will. They long for their identity to be found in being loved.

It hurts me deeply to see girls I know go through this process. Even though they may believe in God, they haven’t fully opened their hearts to let Him pour His love and identity into them. They don’t think of Him as the one that has been pursuing them, the one who has been incredibly in love with them, the one who has had feelings towards them since day one. He’s been watching, admiring, and getting butterflies at the thought of them loving Him back.

        A relationship with Christ can never be replaced by a relationship with a guy. We can’t rely all of our worth, value, identity, or happiness on a guy who’s feelings may change for us. No boy can live up to the expectation of filling a hole that is meant for only God to fill. That emptiness and cry for love should only be filled with Christ. His feelings for us never change. He has, is, and always will be completely in love with us. Despite what you’ve done, despite what you do, His feelings of adoration and His choice of love never changes.


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  1. Brittany March 18, 2013 at 4:00 pm

    Amen to that, sister! No sooner had I learned that very important lesson that God then brought my now husband into my life. 🙂


  2. Ashlee Chu March 21, 2013 at 8:52 pm

    Great post, Katherine. We all need to hear how WE are sought after and can rest in knowing we don’t need to search for anyone else’s love but His.

  3. Kaitlin March 24, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    Thank you for writing this! This is EXACTLY what my heart needs in this current season of life. My only problem is this: how can I have this sort of relationship with God? Sure, I love Jesus and I’ve seen Him do amazing things in my life, but how do I find my identity and purpose in Him?

    [I hope that makes sense! Sometimes I hear things from preachers and mentors and I think, “I want that in my life!” But I need to actually see what it looks like. Thanks!]

    • Katherine Robins April 8, 2013 at 3:55 pm

      Katlin! I just saw this comment! That’s a good question, and I’m learning more every day. I’d say for one, daily spend time with Him. Reading His Word and praying. Open yourself up to God, ask Him to fill you. Ask Him to pour identity of His beloved bride into your heart so that your heart will know that you are loved and therefore your life will be walking in confidence. Start going to God in all circumstances. May He be the one you lean on. Also, when you read His Word, let it sink into you. The Bible tells us what God think of us. So let it sink in and find your identity in who God says you are.
      Also, something that helps that I do is I have a couple verses on beauty printed out and taped to my mirror. That way when I get ready in the morning, I’m reminded what true beauty is, and that God thinks I’m beautiful, and I don’t need a guy or the world to affirm that for me.
      Does that help at all?! Thanks for commenting! 🙂

  4. Euu May 12, 2013 at 6:18 am

    Hey. Thanks for this blog post. Its a good reminder. Though I have a growing relationship with Christ, I still do desire to have an earthly lover to share my life with and he hasn’t appear yet. Im still learning to seek God and to spend all my time and energy on desiring God more than a spouse but its so tough.

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